Your kid is starting for the first time. What to say.
What to say when your kid finds out they're starting for the first time. The script that builds them up without loading on expectations.
What they're feeling
- · Excited and terrified in roughly equal parts.
- · Worried about letting people down.
- · More nervous than they've been for a regular game.
- · Wanting you to make it feel manageable.
What to say (pick one)
- "You earned this. Go play your game."
- "I'm going to enjoy every minute."
- "Just do what you do in practice."
Then stop talking.
What not to say
- "Don't blow this. You finally got your shot."
- "Everyone's going to be watching."
- "Make sure the coach sees what you can do."
The rule
The first start is about showing up, not about proving anything. Say that.
If they bring it up
- · If they're nervous, say that's normal and nerves mean they care.
- · Keep the conversation about what they do well, not what they need to show.
- · After the game, let them tell you how it felt before you evaluate it.
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First start
- · Short and warm before the game.
- · No performance talk. Just support.
- · After the game, ask how it felt before you say how it looked.
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