Before a big game. What to say.
What to say on the way to a big game. The script that lowers anxiety and keeps the focus where it belongs.
What they're feeling
- · Nervous. More than they want you to know.
- · Running worst-case scenarios in their head.
- · Wanting to feel ready but not sure how.
- · Watching how you're acting.
What to say (pick one)
- "You've put in the work. Just go play."
- "I'm going to enjoy watching you out there."
- "What's your plan for the first five minutes?"
Then stop talking.
What not to say
- "This is a huge game."
- "Don't mess up."
- "Coach is watching who starts well today."
The rule
They pick up your energy in the car. Calm is contagious. So is panic.
If they bring it up
- · Ask what they've been working on that they feel good about.
- · Let them say the nerves out loud without trying to fix them.
- · Remind them of one specific moment they handled pressure well.
- · Short sentences. No speeches.
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Before a big game
- · Keep the car ride normal. Music, conversation, no big talks.
- · One small vote of confidence. Not a pregame speech.
- · Your job today is to watch and enjoy it.
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