After a bad volleyball match. What to say.
What to say after a rough volleyball match. The script for when the errors compounded and the set count wasn't close.
What they're feeling
- · Frustrated with themselves and maybe with their teammates.
- · Like the match snowballed and they couldn't stop it.
- · Self-conscious about errors that everyone in the gym saw.
- · Drained. Volleyball is mentally fast.
What to say (pick one)
- "That one got away from you. It happens."
- "You competed hard."
- "Ready to head out?"
Then stop talking.
What not to say
- "Your serve cost you the second set."
- "Why weren't you calling the ball?"
- "The setter wasn't giving you anything to work with."
The rule
Volleyball is five people adjusting in real time. One bad match tells you almost nothing.
If they bring it up
- · Let them talk about what they felt first.
- · If they bring up a teammate, hear it but don't add to it.
- · Ask what felt okay, even in a match that went badly.
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After a bad volleyball match
- · Don't analyze the rotations on the way home.
- · Let them talk if they want to. Don't force the debrief.
- · Food and sleep reset more than conversation will tonight.
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