What to say before a game at 11–12
When real nerves arrive. The script that names the feeling without inflating it. Three sentences, not a speech.
What they're feeling
- · Real pre-game nerves for the first time.
- · Aware of who is watching.
- · Comparing themselves to the kid who is better.
- · Tracking playing time and roster decisions in their head.
- · Wondering if you'll be disappointed if they don't perform.
What to say (pick one)
- "Your job today is the same as practice. Play hard. Stay coachable."
- "You don't have to play your best for me to be proud of you."
- "I'll see you after."
Then stop talking.
What not to say
- "If you have a good game, we'll go to..."
- "Coach told me you need to..."
- "Don't be nervous. (Telling someone not to be nervous adds nerves.)"
- "Today's the game we've been waiting for."
The rule
Decouple your approval from their performance. Say it out loud, once, before they walk to the dugout.
If they bring it up
- · If they say they're nervous, name it back. 'Yeah, the body does that. Means you care.' Then change the subject.
- · If they ask whether you think they'll do well, the answer is 'I think you'll play hard. I trust the rest.'
- · If they ask about playing time or starting, be honest. They are old enough to handle 'I don't know.'
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Before a game at 11–12
- · Name the nerves. Don't inflate them.
- · Decouple your approval from their performance, in words.
- · Three sentences, then quiet.
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